Anticipatory grief comes when a loved one is facing the end of life but the death has not yet occurred.
Anticipatory grief is both a acknowledgment and a dread. The
acknowledgment comes because you have time to emotionally adjust to the
impending loss, resolve regrets, and make amends. Another opportunity
is to share your feelings of caring and appreciation with your loved
one. From a practical standpoint, you may also be able to discuss
end-of-life wishes and other preparations.
The difficulty with anticipatory grief is witnessing the loved one’s struggle.
Seeing someone you love in pain and caring for their needs is
extremely stressful. Also, each change for the worse brings a new wave
of grief for the caregivers and family members. Depending on the nature
of the illness, anticipatory grief can last for months or years. Those
who have been through anticipatory grief advise others to avoid
feeling guilty about any negative feelings you may have (which are
normal) and look for the positive in the time you can spend with your